Monday, December 22, 2025

Christmas Greetings

 

I think Christmas cards are going the way of the dinosaur. They are soon to be extinct.
 
However, I'll be one of those people hanging on until the bitter end. I've been part of photo Christmas cards for most of my life. 
 
 

 It's a family tradition. I starred in my very first one in 1957, as a 6-month-old baby.

By the time 1958 rolled around, I was already sharing space with my sister, Lisa, on the annual missive from Bob and Janis.


Though my brother, Kent, was born in December 1966, he didn't make the Christmas card until 1967. This is the first photo card with all my siblings. I would have been 10, Lisa, 9, Darci, 6 and Kent was 1.
My parents included their children on the family Christmas card until we graduated from college. Randy and I sent our first photo card in 1981, the year we were married.
We didn't send another photo card until 1985, the year Jill was born. It was only natural, I suppose, that we continued the tradition with our own children.
Christmas Card Photo - Jill - 1985
We sent one with the three of us in 1986, when Jill was 15 months old. After that, I usually stayed on the other side of the camera and just included the kids. (When you're the one doing the work, you get the most votes.)
Christmas Card Photo - 1986
The first one with Brent was in 1988. Brent would have been about 7 months and Jill was 3.
Christmas Card Photo - 1988

Back when Jill and Brent were little, this annual attempt was captured on film. And you weren't sure what you'd gotten until the film was developed. I have rolls and rolls of film chronicling the misadventures of getting two little kids to look their best in the same frame. The move to digital photography makes the storage problem easier - though it can't help everyone look great in every frame. 

Kinley made her first Christmas card appearance in 2012.

When Brooke joined the family in 2014, I featured several outtakes of the girls on the blog. This was just one of them. Kinley, almost 3 at the time, was definitely in her cheesy smile stage. 

 

This one was from 2020. (Boy, the girls have sure changed!)

We didn't do the formal family portrait this year, so some snapshots had to suffice for the 2025 Fritzemeier Christmas card.

No matter whether you're a Christmas card advocate or you aren't, Merry Christmas from our family to yours! 

Peace on earth, good will toward all.


Light of the World

 

Sunrise, December 3, 2025

The darkness of the world can only be cured 
by the Light of the One who created it.
--Anonymous  

The wives were one of the topics during "the guys" meet and greet for coffee last week. Once a week, Randy meets with several buddies for breakfast at Joan's Cafe in Stafford. Randy knows that I would prefer not to be the subject of weekly topics covered by this band of buddies. Stick to the weather, guys!

He's a smart man, so he usually doesn't share when I - or the other wives - become conversation topics. I'm not naive enough to think it never happens. And I suppose I precipitated his revelation. I was making yet another snack mix for our Christmas celebrations and holiday gifts from the kitchen, and I started thinking about other people I "should" add to the list.

If I give to this person at church, shouldn't I give to that one, too? And how about her? Or him?

That's when Randy broke the covenant of silence and said, "We talked about this at breakfast this week. About how the wives want to make things perfect and make everyone happy at Christmas."

He then added the guys' perspective, with several of them chiming in that "In their day, you just had to be happy with what you got" ... so why do the wives think it should be different now? Yes, guys. And you had to walk three miles - uphill - in a snowstorm to get to school, too, right? 

I suppose that says more about the difference between guys and gals than "complaining" about their wives' propensity to try and be all things to all people. And it probably speaks to their oblivion about all their moms or grandmas were doing to make Christmas special ... yes, even back in the day. 

But as for my answer to their question? I plead the Fifth.

OK, really, I plead guilty. Every year, as Christmas approaches, I struggle with the anxiety of things needing to be perfect and wanting to be all things to all people. If I'm honest, I struggle with that feeling most of the time. 

I see all my imperfections. And I think, "If I just try really hard to make everyone happy, maybe they'll overlook this, that or the other that I find lacking in myself."

It never works because "other people" aren't the problem. The problem is me, myself and I. I'm the one who puts undue pressure on myself. 

I can sing songs about making room for the Christ Child. I can sing it. But unless I apply it, it probably doesn't do a lot of good. 

A Facebook memory came up from a K-State performance of "A Christmas Carol." In that blog post from 2014, I posted the words to one of the songs from the show:

Let the stars in the sky
remind us of man's compassion.
Let us love 'til we die
and God bless us every one.

In your heart there's a light
as bright as a star in heaven.
Let it shine through the night
and God bless us every one.

'Til each child is fed,
'Til all men are free,
'Til the world becomes a family

Star by star in the sky
and kindness by human kindness,
Let me love 'til I die and
God bless us every one.

So, "kindness by human kindness," it will take all of us to change.

Sunrise, December 3, 2025
 
Every generous act of giving, with every perfect gift, is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.
—James 1:17
 
Sunset, December 17, 2025
 

It would probably do me more good to go outside to experience even more of God's masterpieces at sunrise and sunset. It would likely be more productive than adding another snack mix - or some other self-imposed task - to my schedule. 

Sunset, December 17, 2025

Prayer for Reflection

God of peace, hope, joy, and love, in our Christmas preparations, may we never lose sight of the meaning of the season. Help us ready our hearts to receive your Son and show His light to all. Together we pray. Amen.

God Bless Us Everyone. 

Tuesday, December 2, 2025

Thanksgiving Tidbits

 

My Grandma Neelly was notorious for cutting people's heads off. 

Don't get me wrong: She was the most mild-mannered, even-tempered lady. But give her a camera, and she'd chop off your head in a heartbeat.  Lisa said she must have been channeling Grandma Neelly when she took the photo of her Thanksgiving crowd. Randy was the victim in this case. (He should have moved into Lisa's chair. Oh well!)

All is forgiven. We were just thankful to be included in the Thanksgiving feast hosted in Clay Center. And it was a good laugh while we remembered. My brother was the chauffeur for my parents, and we joined the Bauer crew for a delicious traditional meal.

The next day, Randy and I had a different kind of Thanksgiving at Jill's. Daughter-in-law Susan and daughter Jill came up with the idea to do an appetizer competition for our little family's Thanksgiving. It was just as tasty. We were all supposed to add our offering to a Google Doc so we didn't end up with eight versions of the Cranberry Relish Dip over cream cheese. As it turned out, no one brought that. (I'm sure it will be on my Christmas menu.)

Most people complied with revealing their contributions, though Brent was adamant that his would remain a secret until the event. Jill developed a ballot, and everyone scored each appetizer with a 1 to 5, with 5 being the best. If someone refused to even take a taste of the appetizer, you had to give that dish a 3. (There was some controversy concerning that scoring decision among our participants).

And, drum roll please: My appetizer won. (A caveat ... None of these food photos is great. Most were taken after we'd already eaten and not taken very creatively. But maybe they are better than nothing.)

I brought homemade soft pretzel bites with a warm beer cheese dip.  (I also had a platter of fresh veggies you could dip, too.) 

My offering was one of several that came off our family's go-to recipe website, Sally's Baking Addiction. As Jill says, "Sally never lets you down." 

I've made a lot of yeast bread. In fact, I also took the yeast crescent rolls for our Thanksgiving celebration at Lisa's. But this was the first time I'd used a soda water bath. I'd always been kind of intimidated by the thought, but it turned out to be easy - though a little messy. 

Still, I'm already thinking about making them again for our family's Christmas "charcuterie" evening meal. (We'll have the traditional ham with trimmings for our noon meal and go the appetizer route for supper.)

Brooke's focaccia turkey sliders and Kinley's fruit kabobs.

Brooke also used Sally's arsenal of recipes, making homemade focaccia to make turkey sliders. We were all highly complimentary of her efforts. 

Remember Brent's huge mystery contribution? It was Candied Prosciutto Crackers. Yummy! 

Susan brought Sausage Stuffing Balls, also a contender. 

Eric used his love of Little Smokies and turned them into an appetizer version of pigs-in-a-blanket with a cranberry/mustard dipping sauce. There were only two left when I got around to taking a photo at the end, so they were popular, too.

Jill said she knew that her Harvest Salad probably wouldn't be the most popular. But it was a nice, fresh addition to our menu. And it was a winner among those of us who like a little green with our meals.  

It seemed that effort was rewarded among our voters. Kinley's fruit kabobs and Randy's shrimp cocktail platters received the lowest scores, though we enjoyed them, too. (Randy knew what he was bringing as soon as the appetizer theme was announced. And, bonus points: He shopped for his own contribution rather than just adding it to my grocery list for me to pick up.) 

We are thankful that son-in-law Eric has long arms so that we could all end up in a selfie. 

There was a bonus optional competition for desserts. (I didn't get photos of those, but they were just as delicious.) Brooke made a banana cream pie, and Eric made a coconut cream pie. Susan contributed a blueberry-pear galette, and Jill made an apple-cranberry bar, also from Sally's website. (She used the filling recipe from the Apple Cranberry Crumble Pie and the crust recipe from Salted Caramel Apple Bars. The caramel apple bars are a family favorite already.)

I brought the leftover pecan, coconut and pumpkin pies that I'd made for the Bauer Thanksgiving. We had plenty of sweet treats! (I use the same syrup for both the coconut and pecan pies.)  

I am not including the recipe for the Pretzel Bites - just giving you the link. Sally's Baking Addiction has great, detailed instructions, and you might as well get it straight from the source. She even has a video, if you're a visual learner. She had a cheese sauce linked, but I used a different one. 

I saw this recipe from a Hutchinson kitchen store, Apron Strings, and wanted to try it. It was a hit, too, and I'm sure I'll make it again.

Beer Cheese Dip
From an Apron Strings email  

4 tablespoons unsalted butter
1 clove garlic, minced
4 tablespoons all-purpose flour
1 cup whipping cream
1/2 cup lager beer
1-1/2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce
1/2 teaspoon mustard powder
1/8 teaspoon cayenne pepper
1/4 teaspoon smoked paprika
1/4 teaspoon salt
4 oz sharp cheddar cheese, grated (1-1/2 cups)
1/2 cup Gruyère cheese, grated
2 tablespoons chives, finely minced (opt)

In a small saucepan over low heat, melt the butter. Once melted, add the minced garlic and cook for 2-3 minutes. Create a roux by gradually whisking in the flour until all is incorporated.

Reduce the heat to low and add the cream, beer, and Worcestershire sauce. Continue to stir. Whisk in the spices. Slowly add the cheeses and stir until melted and the sauce becomes smooth. Taste and add additional salt or spices, if desired. Garnish with chives, if desired. Enjoy immediately.

I doubled the recipe to take to Jill's.  

***

All the girls went on a Black Friday shopping expedition to help me fulfill the wishes for two sisters from our Stafford community's Angel Tree. As we were coming back, Kinley wanted to know if they could wrap them, too. What a huge help!  

 

Then, on Saturday, Randy and I froze along with other Wildcat fans at the K-State vs. Colorado football game. The stands were definitely not packed. 

It was brisk! We had all the weather covered - rain, sleet, snow and even a little sunshine - very little sunshine. 

We sat in my folks' seats. If we'd have been in our regular seats, we would have faced that north wind the entire time, so we lucked out ... sort of. It was still cold!
But we got a victory to end the regular season and qualify for a post-season bowl game.

Through the purple smoke! 

And I left my car seat warmer on the entire way home.