Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Mom Guilt

I'm feeling a bit guilty today. My boy is turning 23, and I didn't even send him a box of treats. And I'm not sure when or if I'll get to talk with him today.

Before anyone goes and reports me as the Worst Mother of the Year, it's not like I forgot his special day. I've already texted him this morning. (Who would have predicted that form of communication back in 1988? Not me!)

Believe me, I haven't forgotten what I was doing on a Tuesday morning 23 years ago.

It's certainly not the first time that we've spent his birthday apart. For the past four years, I've mailed him a batch of Scotcheroos with sprinkles on top. Brent hasn't been so thrilled that his birthday falls during finals week at college. Somehow, we missed that little conflict with our family planning. His box of birthday treats also doubled as study snacks to share with his buddies.

But this year, as a graduate student at the University of South Carolina, he got done with finals last week. Yesterday, he started an intercession class which includes a trip down the South Carolina coast. (Yes, it sounds like an intensive, arduous class, doesn't it?)

I told him I'd mail him a box of Scotcheroos to share on the bus. But he said I didn't need to do it. Now I'm wishing I had anyway.

Brent will be back in Kansas next week to attend a friend's wedding and to spend a few days at home before his summer classes begin. He said we'd just celebrate his birthday then.

And I know he's not a little boy anymore. But I still wish I'd sent those treats.

So Happy Birthday to my fun-loving son! No matter how many miles separate us, you're still my little boy.

And if you want to celebrate Brent's birthday for him, eat a Scotcheroo in his honor. He's not a big fan of cake.

1 cup sugar
1 cup corn syrup
1 cup peanut butter
6 cups Rice Krispies
1 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips
1 cup butterscotch chips

Mix sugar and corn syrup together and bring to a boil in microwave or on top of stove. Add peanut butter and stir in well. Add cereal; mix well. Put mixture into a buttered 9- by 13-inch pan.

Melt the chocolate and butterscotch chips together in the microwave, stirring frequently to prevent burning. When melted, spread over cereal bars. If desired, cover with candy sprinkles while the chocolate mixture is still wet. Cool and cut into bars.


  1. Definatly not the worst - what you are is a GREAT MOM - you raised him, love him and let him be his own man - being there for him always makes you a great Mom!

  2. Hi Kim....Have made Scotcheroos for a 100 years but have always used Special K....try it sometime....know you are proud of those boys...I've always said..one boy is no test you have to have at least two....I don't want to think of 3,4 or 5 boys!!...but I have my precious daughter also!!..Happy Belated Mother's Day!!

  3. Happy Birthday, Brent! Sounds like a pretty great b-day to be out and about on the East Coast!! Scotcheroos or not!

  4. I still laugh at how Brent had girls "audition" to be his prom date!! That was sooooo funny!! Happy Birthday Brent!

  5. Kim, I'm anonymous above, Vi Z

  6. @Betty: I just have one son, too. The other guy in our family photo is Jill's husband, Eric. I'm blessed by all of them! Hope your Mother's Day was great, too! @Vi: Yes, Brent is constantly making us laugh. He had his very own rose ceremony to select the "winner." Lots of fun memories from both the kids!